The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ― C.G. Jung
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Has your relationship grown cold and distant? Or, do you find yourself in constant arguments and conflict?
Your relationship can heal, and I can help make that happen. Loneliness is one of life’s most difficult emotions. I want to help you overcome these difficulties and move forward in your relationship in a healthier, happier way.
Relationships are full of challenges. Integrating your life with another person comes with both joy and challenges. Life partners can provide support, and they can also cause distress. When there are relational issues, each person in the relationship tends to perceive the conflict differently. Understanding these perceptions is crucial to diffusing the conflict and beginning the process of relational restoration (Rosenblatt & Rieks, 2009). This can be done through couple’s therapy, but individual therapy can be just as impactful on the relationship. Therapy can provide a safe space to express difficult emotions, and I aim to create an environment where couples and individuals are able to process and work through issues that negatively affect their relationships.
Individual therapy is a place where you can share your thoughts and feelings in a judgment-free space while the therapist understands the intricacies of your life and your relationships. Couples therapy provides an environment where couples can feel comfortable sharing emotions they may otherwise fear will end in a significant disagreement. The therapist can help clarify emotions, facilitate conversations that foster greater intimacy, and confront and change ineffective communication styles that are causing conflict in the relationship (Karbelnig, 2018). At Integrative Holistic Therapy, I am ready to learn about the complexities of your relationship and ensure that every voice is heard. Therapy can provide the extra help needed to create a healthy and communicative relationship.
What is Individual Therapy?
Individual therapy is traditional one-on-one counseling that focuses on you as the client. The need for belonging and connection heavily influences well-being (Shifron, 2010). Here at Integrative Holistic Therapy, I want to help you find that place of belonging and connection.
Many clients start with individual therapy for their relationship to learn new skills for improving themselves and supporting their partner. Each person plays a part in the success of the relationship, and it can be incredibly helpful if even one partner takes part in therapy for this reason. Individual therapy can create a space where you can discuss the parts of your relationship that you feel like you cannot share with anyone else.
You can share your fears, doubts, and uncertainties that you may be hesitant to share with your partner until you are prepared and sure of what to say. Individual therapy may be especially helpful for those who have been through trauma or had difficult childhood experiences, as therapy may help connect the dots between life experiences and current struggles that are contributing to relationship problems. Therapy can provide specialized treatment to you as the therapist begins to understand how you function and what would be most helpful for you moving forward.
What is Couples Therapy?
Relationship issues are often best addressed in couples therapy. As you, your partner, and I meet together, we can begin to address some of the issues in a balanced, cooperative environment. A relationship is regarded as a system in which there are many moving parts that may contribute to the conflict and prevent reparations. Generally, many couples struggle with a cycle of negative behaviors that have gone unnoticed over time (Nielsen, 2017). Therapy makes room for both partners to communicate their thoughts and emotions without the experience erupting into something unmanageable.
It can feel hopeless to come up with new ways to handle problems that are plaguing your relationship. I hope to help you and your partner see the relationship in a new light and with renewed hope. Your relationship started in a positive place –let’s see if we can get there again.
How Can Paula L. Marcolin Help?
It can feel intimidating and scary to begin individual or couples counseling for relationship problems. At Integrative Holistic Therapy, I hope to help you and your partner find ways to connect and give you tools to work through problems that commonly come up.
I am a psychotherapist in private practice with 20+ years working experience in the field of mental health and have been in private practice for nine years. I work with individuals (adults & adolescents), couples, and group. My credentials include a B.A. in Psychology and a Master of Science from Johns Hopkins University graduating with Honors, and I am a member of Northern Virginia Licensed Professional Counselor Association. In addition, I have over two years of experience in facilitating court-ordered groups for domestic violence, anger management, and substance abuse and am certified in The Stage Page: An effective tool to help individuals create healthy relationships.
I believe in holistic care of every individual and attempt to infuse hope into the lives of every person with which I meet.
I believe you have the ability to make lasting changes in your life.
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If you are interested in therapy, please contact me using the information at the top of my webpage. I am excited to discuss what therapy could look like for you.
Schedule an appointment with me today! I am eager to connect with you!
More about Integrative Holistic Therapy
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My office is based in Leesburg, Virginiaand I love to connect with individuals and couples in my community.
Karbelnig, A. M. (2018). The geometry of intimacy: Love triangles and couples therapy. Psychoanalytic Psychology, 35(1), 70–82. https://doi.org/10.1037/pap0000144
Nielsen, A. C. (2017). From couple therapy 1.0 to a comprehensive model: A roadmap for sequencing and integrating systemic, psychodynamic, and behavioral approaches in couple therapy. Family Process, 56(3), 540–557. https://doi.org/10.1111/famp.12300
Rosenblatt, P. C., & Rieks, S. J. (2009). No Compromise: Couples Dealing with Issues for Which They Do Not See a Compromise. American Journal of Family Therapy, 37(3), 196–208. https://doi.org/10.1080/01926180802405554
Shifron, R. (2010). Adler’s Need to Belong as the Key for Mental Health. Journal of Individual Psychology, 66(1), 10–29.